They differ on 2 of 4 dimensions.
Joins in · Tries new things · Stays close · Goes with the moment
You sit down and it arrives with a toy in its mouth. A new box or tunnel is better if you come and look too. Halfway through a game it may wander off to a sunny spot, then come back to rub against you. None of this happens on a schedule.
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Joins in · Likes the familiar · Stays close · Regular hours
At the sound of keys it runs to the door and follows you in, rubbing against your legs. When the family gathers in the living room, it squeezes onto the sofa too. It asks to be petted at about the same times each day and plays the same few games.
Read the type guide · ESFJOn these dimensions the two type descriptions lean the same way. Similar habits can mean easy company, and also wanting the same spot at the same time.
A new box is more fun with company, so it checks that you are standing right there before looking in.
With the family sitting on the living-room rug, it settles in the middle of everyone.
They may turn up in the same room, or at the same door, at the same moment. Offer more than one place to settle near you, such as two perches or two spots on the sofa, so neither has to wait for the other to move.
It runs up to push its cheek into your open hand, and comes back for more a moment later.
You open the door and it is at your ankles, winding around them with its tail up.
They may want the same lap. Sit where there is room on both sides, give each cat some time with you on its own, and pause the petting now and then so either one can leave.
On these dimensions the descriptions lean in opposite directions. A difference is not a problem; it shows where each cat may need a choice of its own.
It bats the ball out of the new tunnel and goes after it, the next round already in mind.
The evening game is the one it knows: you roll the cloth ball and it trots along behind.
A new toy may interest only one of them. Bring new things in without taking the old ones away, and let the more cautious cat watch from a distance for as long as it likes.
Mid-game it flops down in a patch of sun on the rug, the ball still within reach.
It curls up in its corner of the sofa beside whoever is sitting there, as it does every night.
One cat’s playtime may be the other’s nap. Keep the routine steady for the cat that relies on it, and offer the other a short game somewhere else when it gets going at an odd hour.
These steps are the same for any two cats, whatever their types. Go at the pace of the less comfortable cat.
This compares type descriptions for fun. How two cats actually get along depends on each cat and their home. How it works
